The only resolution I make each year is this: I will like my life. I don't have to love it, but I do have to like it. If something is preventing from liking it, I have to address that thing and change it. This has been my yearly resolution for probably close to 10 years now.
Under the guidance of this resolution, I pushed for a promotion, I started therapy, I reached out to friends, I rebuilt a friendship with someone I'd not contacted in years, I took a sewing class, and more.
This resolution is a rejection of passivity. Living by it is not always easy, but I strive.
That said, the start of the new year is always a good time to re-evaluate what matters to me and think about the kind of life I want to lead.
This year, I want to do (or at least move toward) the following:
- Make significant progress on Lamplighters.
- Improve my understanding and facility with my (unofficially diagnosed)* ADHD.
- Be my strategic with my time.
- Increase my knowledge about and advocacy for justice.
- Cultivate more and stronger connections with others.
- Grow my hobbies.
( * ADHD note )These are not goals I can achieve and consider 'done' within a year, but they are headings. They will help me navigate the year and make decisions. Each of them connect back to values and priorities of mine, such as learning, creating, family, friends, bridge-building, health, self-control, and keeping my word.
For each, I've started brainstorming some first steps.
- For Lamplighters, I've joined Get Your Words Out. I am also strategizing ways to set up a consistent writing routine again since I can no longer maintain the one I had while I was laid off. (I am considering trying to go to bed earlier and becoming a morning person or shifting my work hours to the afternoon once I'm allowed to so that I can have mornings free to write).
- For ADHD, I am going to finally borrow or buy one of the books that were recommended to me last spring and read through it.
- For time strategies, I'll move my weekly planning and reflections to Sunday night since I'm no longer reserving time for them on Monday mornings.
- For advocacy, I will first finish reading Stamped from the Beginning. I'll also get involved with the anti-racism group in my church.
- For connections, I am attending a taco night with some fellow tutors later this month, and I am participating in a larp with some friends and many strangers.
- For hobbies, I have signed up for another sewing class starting later this month. (This also works in my favor for writing as I'd previously built a habit of writing for 30 to 60 minutes at the cafe by the studio before class).
So, no big resolutions but the one and a handful of directions I'd like my life to move in. I'll be moving these headings into a LunaTask template for a monthly check-in so that I can remember what I want and continue moving toward them bit-by-bit.